It can be so difficult to reach out for support, to simply say: “help.”
For some, it is the hardest thing.
Therapy is a relationship, a space, an hour to explore and try on your true self, to give yourself permission to be a messy human being, to let yourself be seen by another person and accepted as you are, and to dare to imagine what it would be like to find healing and take up space in the world – more fully alive.
The fact that you’re even reading this tells me that you are courageous and open enough to do that, and truly, that’s all that is needed at this point. You’re already doing the work.
For those of you who are new to the world of therapy and maybe a little intimidated, let me assure you – you’ve got this. Therapy isn’t scary and it isn’t very much like what you’ve seen in movies. It really is just two people sitting and talking, learning, being radically honest, and figuring out what’s next, together. It just so happens that one of the people (that’s me) has years of training, supervision, and experience that create the ability to understand the intricacies of both what’s said and what’s not said, to offer concrete tools and skills when they are needed, and to consistently provide a safe and nonjudgmental environment to say absolutely anything.
I have spent the past 10+ years working in various capacities of the mental health field. My experience ranges from community based mental health services to higher ed to private practice work. In 2012 I graduated from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology and am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate in the state of Washington (MC #60306261).
When I’m not practicing therapy I can be found planning road trips, cooking good meals with loved ones, and always listening to music. I am passionate about living a life of freedom and helping others to do the same.
Therapy is a collaborative relationship based on mutual engagement and vulnerability.
I very strongly believe that good therapy involves two whole people, rather than one person bearing their soul while the other stands by, stoically nodding. Therapy is a collaborative relationship based on mutual engagement and vulnerability. And while there are times that you may be seeking tangible answers, and times I might be able to provide specific guidance or education about a particular topic, the type of therapy I believe is most healing (and therefore primarily practice) is Relational Therapy.
Relational Therapy is based on the belief that relationships are the essential human experience. A great deal of our pain as humans stems from strained, harmful, and ruptured relationships with others, and also with ourselves – and most of the rest of our pain comes from the unhelpful and unsustainable ways we try to cope with that pain. We often vacillate between ignoring and attempting to problem-solve this pain away, but years pass and we never get anywhere – I know this because I’ve tried it too.
The only thing that can even touch that old relational pain is practicing new ways of relating, and therapy is an ideal place for this kind of practice. Where perhaps you were once silent, therapy becomes the place to begin voicing unspeakable truths; where perhaps you were once terrified of conflict, therapy becomes a safe place to bring your anger; where perhaps you often find yourself sabotaging good things out of a deep belief that you don’t deserve them, therapy becomes a relationship that will not be so easily ruined but rather stays steady long enough to lead finally to growth instead of repetition. And these shifts are not limited to the therapeutic relationship – science tells us that this process actually rewires our brains. In Relational Therapy, we get a new response, which invites us to be different, and those changes ripple out into every facet of our lives, allowing us to have more whole and loving relationships with ourselves and the people in our lives.
In addition to Relational Therapy, I believe in an integrative and holistic approach. This means that I will incorporate a variety of other therapeutic modalities whenever I believe they will benefit you specifically, including but not limited to Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Feminist Theory, Narrative Therapy, and Existential Therapy. This also means that I believe deeply in the mind-body connection. I have seen time and again that the body is key to accessing that which we don’t have words for, and in that way it is essential to healing. I would encourage any of my clients to collaborate with other providers and specialists (naturopaths, nutritionists, primary care providers, psychiatrists, acupuncturists, yoga instructors, etc.) so that the entire self is engaged in the therapeutic process.
Who I See
I provide 50- or 70-minute talk therapy sessions to clients ages 18+
My clients tend to be individuals who are feeling stuck, who are weary of repeating the same painful cycles and patterns, who struggle with shame and low self-worth, who are grappling with faith or doubt, who are floundering in the midst of difficult life changes, or who are exploring their sexuality or identity. Working with individuals who tend to find themselves in co-dependent or unhealthy relationships, who may feel uncomfortable in their own skin, who have experienced a recent or significant death or loss, or who are coping with illness (their own or a loved one’s) is especially of interest to me. I have extensive experience in treating individuals suffering with issues related to abuse, anxiety, depression, disordered eating, and addiction. I actively strive to be an ally to all my clients, including those who may identify as belonging to marginalized or oppressed groups due to their sexuality, gender expression, race, religion, body type, education level, or socioeconomic status.
While I primarily work with individuals, I am open to seeing couples and families on a case by case basis. Feel free to call me for a free phone consult to discuss further if you are interested in these services.
Individual Session Rates
50 minute sessions: $100
70 minute sessions: $125
Couples or family session rates determined on a case-by-case basis.
The initial session is a full 50 minute session where we will mutually assess our fit. If we decide to continue our work together the $100 fee will be charged.
If financial hardship is a concern or barrier, please check with me to see if I have any sliding scale timeslots available.
I do not accept insurance at this time. However, I am happy to provide receipts to you on a monthly basis for out-of-network reimbursement from your insurance. Please let me know at the beginning of our work together if this is something you want, and I can help you understand that process.
Cancellations & Missed Appointments
I require 48-hour notice for cancelled sessions. If insufficient notice is given, I do charge a fee of the full session rate. The exceptions to this are emergencies or sudden illnesses. I am willing to waive the fee if you and I can find a time within the same week to reschedule, but this is based on mutual availability and is not a guarantee.
On-Call or Crisis Services
If you know you are likely to need extra support outside of scheduled sessions, due to frequent crises or intermittent suicidality or self-harm, I may not be the right fit for you at this time. I disclose this upfront to ensure all of my clients are appropriate for the level of care I provide, and I am happy to discuss this further in the initial consultation.
The number for the 24-hour King County Crisis Line is 866-427-4747.
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We shake with joy, we shake with grief. What a time these two have, being housed as they are in the same body.
– Mary Oliver
Ashlee Knight Counseling
Kula Movement: 5340 Ballard Ave NW, Seattle, WA 98107